the written word

i like to read. i read a lot of things: books, manuals, blogs, the back of cereal boxes, graffiti,  street signs, any thing that would have words on it.

like many other kids with overacheiving parents, summer reading was required, on top of vacation bible school and other summer classes. so i learned to appreciate books at a young age.

i never liked those picture books. i have always felt dumb when i read them. i mean i can read the words and i can see them in my mind, no need to have pictures splattered all over the page to prove a point. but i guess i’m not as visual as most people.

one of the very first books i remember reading was a collection of russian short stories. and one of the stories that stood out was the story of baba yaga. she was this witch who was neither good nor evil. she was the first ‘gray’ character i read about.

i am fascinated by folk tales from other cultures because it allowed me to take a peek into their collective psyche. and although i may not be able to fully understand them, i am still able to reconcile their actions because of their beliefs.

i read a lot when i was a kid. and when i went to college, i always made it a point to go to those thrift stores where they sold second-hand books. i never really cared who the author was or the genre, as long as i read the blurb and it sounds good, then i’d buy it. and besides, these books are cheap.

i remember reading this novel by jane heller called ‘cha cha cha.’ it was a very light read but what i remember the most was how sarcastic the whole book really was. and then that’s how i started dreaming about being an ‘angsty’ writer. but then a friend introduced me to jessica zafra and my dreams were snuffed out just like that.

so i just decided to be a reader. and although i have attempted to write fiction at times, i found my writing style too amateurish. i’d rather keep a blog than write a manuscript. 🙂

so last night before having dinner at some mexican place, i decided to buy the second dexter novel by jeff lindsay. i loved the first one and i loved the series, i am positive i will like this installment too.

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cofiboi on relationships

i was having my hair cut by a korean earlier, which was an experience in itself when i got to thinking about relationships.

not just mine, but relationships in general. what people want from one, why people go into one and why these relationships fail.

i know i’m treading into really thin ice talking about it and i don’t want to come out as this guru on relationships and i’m not a shrink so there wouldn’t any of these psycho-babble crap.

all i can share are thoughts on relationships, because i’ve had my fair share.

so here’s what i learned from all of the failed relationships i’ve had. you might actually agree with me on some points, so try to keep an open mind, dear reader. 🙂

• i learned that people aren’t necessarily lonely, but sometimes they just want someone to share their completeness with.
• i learned that one needs to keep something from the relationship, sharing is good, but you need to keep something so that when someone leaves there’s something left to help you pick up the pieces ( i think i already wrote this somewhere)
• there’s no ‘one great love’. not even a second, one can love as many people as possible. you can love a whole lot of people; like family, and that can also be translated to romantic love.
• talking to your partner helps a lot. letting the other person know what you think does wonders to a relationship, especially in sex. 😉
• i also learned that there’s some truth behind this: “why wait for mister right when mister right now is here?”
• choose which battles to fight. if it’s time to let go, no use trying to make it work, some relationships have a shelf life.
• letting go is never easy, but the sooner you get on the road, the easier it gets to move on.

well, so far, those are the things i learned. i might add more to the list as i move along. 🙂

biko

meet biko. he’s cute, smart, a bit shy, and he’s straight.

if he wasn’t, we’d make a cute couple, don’t you think? 🙂

and yes. i have to pout in this shot.

i’m a bully, i make straight boys do stuff for me. 😉

but that’s only until after the picture is taken. after that, we all go back to our boring office lives. so yeah, a picture can mean everything and mean nothing at the same time.

he’s not a guy i would seriously go after. he’s just a guy i happen to have a picture with, holding hands. 🙂

like i said, he’s straight, and i don’t go for straight guys. but what if he weren’t? oh the possibilities!

summer fling

i think i’m just about ready for a summer fling. 🙂

i’m not ready for a full-blown relationship yet. right now, i’m having fun being single.

i can go wherever and meet whomever i want. 🙂

i need something fleeting. like summer. and i don’t care if things get too hot, i’m burn-proof. haha.

this summer, i’ll make sure i date, a lot. dates and then some. i guess my trip alone to cebu gave me a new perspective; a new way of looking at what’s on my plate. i have always had a positive attitude towards life, but after falling in love with cebu, i guess you could say i’ve reached a higher level of positivity. 🙂

and yes, i think i’m due for a mature kind of dating. i have outgrown clubbing and blind dates. i’m not that young anymore, so i think i need to play in the grown-up sandbox now.

i know, summer flings are immature, but if you look at it from another angle, it’s actually a mature concept. i have accepted the fact that not all relationships last long. and you shouldn’t force yourself into committing into something or someone you’re not ready for yet. i don’t necessarily need a disposable boyfriend, but i definitely need someone. so i think the best solution is a fling. nothing serious, all fun.

and besides, it’s fun to have someone around- and pets don’t count. 🙂

so, any takers? 🙂