espresso shots – life lessons from toy story 3

i hate going to the movies alone. the last time i did was back in college, i played hooky a lot. 🙂

i convinced my brother to come see toy story 3 with me and of course after much bullying, he relented. he said yes and i reserved our seats online knowing that the movie house would be packed today.

in a classic brotherly move, he stood me up. i ended up paying for two tickets and watching the movie alone. i was a little irritated of course but then i realized we lived in the same house, retribution is sure to hound my dearly beloved brother.

the first toy story movie was shown in 1995, i was in grade school then, a little older than andy but i was still into toys. i remember seeing the movie with my family, my brother included, and was amazed at how the animators were able to come up with a movie like this one.

i vaguely remember watching the second one because i think i was too busy with my life and i probably bought a bootleg dvd of that one.

i was expecting this movie to be your regular computer-generated movie: lots of visual effects with very little story. but i was pleasantly surprised to to find out that this movie is a very grown up one.

the kids would love this for sure, but the grown ups would leave the movie house with something to think about too. by the end of the movie, when the story draws to a close, i felt a little bittersweet. same feeling i had when the credits were shown in the lord of the rings trilogy. but more than that, this animated movie made me think about one very important life lesson: letting go and moving on.

when we were kids our lives were very predictable and leaving, loving, heartbreak were probably words we never used.

then we grew up. we learned that there are times that we need to let go and we need to leave someone or something behind. but then again, i have always found it hard to let go especially to people who have been a part of my life. people who made me who i am. people i loved.

moving on is a process i have gone through a lot of times and let me tell you, it’s not easy. it’s not easy to let go of something you have been doing for a long time. it’s hard to let go of someone you have loved so much and is a part of who you are. but i have learned to make the process a little easier to bear.

the toys made me realize how it is really to move on.

at the onset of a breakup or somebody leaving, we tend to have fears. we’re afraid that we might not be the same without that person. we have built our lives around a concept that our lives are connected and when we lose the connection, we would just fall apart and we would never be the same again.

but woody, buzz and the rest of the toys made me think about how i handle the demise of a relationship. in my opinion, that alone made the movie powerful.

the toys didn’t fight to win andy’s affection, they knew that andy would someday grow up and leave them behind. however, just like many of us, they didn’t like to be thrown away. all they wanted was to stay in the attic where andy could always find them whenever he needs them-if he needs them. and that’s what the whole movie was all about: making someone realize that moving on doesn’t always have to be hard, the worst it can be is to be a bittersweet ending.

and that’s what i felt when the credit rolled, that bittersweet feeling when i let go of a relationship. i do not cut the ties, i just loosen them. no person is bound to us forever. we just have to cross our fingers and hope that when we do move on, it would be to something better. and that’s something we can’t prepare for.

the movie was great. and being a kids’ movie, it doesn’t have those sappy, awkward long pauses with a sad song playing in the background. the creators have done a good job. toy story 3 is a neat little ribbon to wrap up the whole franchise.


cofiboi on relationships

i was having my hair cut by a korean earlier, which was an experience in itself when i got to thinking about relationships.

not just mine, but relationships in general. what people want from one, why people go into one and why these relationships fail.

i know i’m treading into really thin ice talking about it and i don’t want to come out as this guru on relationships and i’m not a shrink so there wouldn’t any of these psycho-babble crap.

all i can share are thoughts on relationships, because i’ve had my fair share.

so here’s what i learned from all of the failed relationships i’ve had. you might actually agree with me on some points, so try to keep an open mind, dear reader. 🙂

  • i learned that people aren’t necessarily lonely, but sometimes they just want someone to share their completeness with.
  • i learned that one needs to keep something from the relationship, sharing is good, but you need to keep something so that when someone leaves there’s something left to help you pick up the pieces ( i think i already wrote this somewhere)
  • there’s no ‘one great love’. not even a second, one can love as many people as possible. you can love a whole lot of people; like family, and that can also be translated to romantic love.
  • talking to your partner helps a lot. letting the other person know what you think does wonders to a relationship, especially in sex. 😉
  • i also learned that there’s some truth behind this: “why wait for mister right when mister right now is here?”
  • choose which battles to fight. if it’s time to let go, no use trying to make it work, some relationships have a shelf life.
  • letting go is never easy, but the sooner you get on the road, the easier it gets to move on.

well, so far, those are the things i learned. i might add more to the list as i move along. 🙂