cofiboi on relationships

i was having my hair cut by a korean earlier, which was an experience in itself when i got to thinking about relationships.

not just mine, but relationships in general. what people want from one, why people go into one and why these relationships fail.

i know i’m treading into really thin ice talking about it and i don’t want to come out as this guru on relationships and i’m not a shrink so there wouldn’t any of these psycho-babble crap.

all i can share are thoughts on relationships, because i’ve had my fair share.

so here’s what i learned from all of the failed relationships i’ve had. you might actually agree with me on some points, so try to keep an open mind, dear reader. 🙂

  • i learned that people aren’t necessarily lonely, but sometimes they just want someone to share their completeness with.
  • i learned that one needs to keep something from the relationship, sharing is good, but you need to keep something so that when someone leaves there’s something left to help you pick up the pieces ( i think i already wrote this somewhere)
  • there’s no ‘one great love’. not even a second, one can love as many people as possible. you can love a whole lot of people; like family, and that can also be translated to romantic love.
  • talking to your partner helps a lot. letting the other person know what you think does wonders to a relationship, especially in sex. 😉
  • i also learned that there’s some truth behind this: “why wait for mister right when mister right now is here?”
  • choose which battles to fight. if it’s time to let go, no use trying to make it work, some relationships have a shelf life.
  • letting go is never easy, but the sooner you get on the road, the easier it gets to move on.

well, so far, those are the things i learned. i might add more to the list as i move along. 🙂


13 thoughts on “cofiboi on relationships

  1. gandang post:

    i love the first point:

    “i learned that people aren’t necessarily lonely, but sometimes they just want someone to share their completeness with.” -Cofiboi

    Siguro sa sobrang melancholy lang ng tao nagkakatalo, kaya akala nila, hindi sila kumpleto kapag wala yung partner nila..

    Gandang post.:-D

  2. Although I know it’s probably true, the saying “choose which battles to fight” just makes me sad. :c

    I don’t care if I’m losing. I don’t care if I’m wounded. But I’ll keep on fighting. :p Bow. Hahaha.

  3. What made you think of relationships while you were getting your hair cut? 😛 When I get my hair cut, I just keep thinking that “please don’t ruin my hair; it looks lousy enough.” XD

    Let’s take it from the experienced :D. Woo-hoo XD.

    “Why wait for mister right when mister right now is here?” Great way to put it. But I never put it that way. Good advice though. Maybe, that mister right now will eventually be mister right too, right? 😛

  4. mister right now…
    kunsabagay, living in the present makes the waiting easier. pero meron pa ako narinig before na, even if you found mister wrong, your love will make it right. eew cheesy =)

  5. i like the “choose which battles to fight”, i can relate to that so much right now.

    and the first one too, kaya cguro naffeel mo na lonely ka kasi nakatatak sa isip mo na masaya ka lang pag kasama mo xa.. (i think) hehe.
    nice read coach.. :))

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